I have one brother that is a little over 2 years older than me. We were each other’s primary playmate when we were little. I think he viewed me as a nuisance most of the time, but I was all he had, so he put up with me. I have a terrible memory, so I honestly don’t remember a lot of specifics, but I do remember a lot of fun times playing with him. He may remember them as me stealing his paper (I loved to
draw scribble) and always being in his room. As my older brother I looked up to him a lot. In my eyes he was super cool. As we got older, we became interested in completely different things. Not only because we were different gender, but because we were also just different. The things I was into he was not. The people I hung out with, he did not. The music I listened to, he did not. Honestly, just about everything about us was different. We were not near as close through middle school and high school. Then he left for college. He moved to Lawrence to go to KU. We rarely talked. When I graduated, I ended up at KU too. Even though we were in the same town at the same college, we didn’t spend a lot of time together. It wasn’t until after college that we started to really connect again and make an effort at our relationship. Even today, we are still very different in a lot of ways, but we have grown to accept and respect our differences. We love each other because we are family and that matters more than any differences in interests or personalities. Its funny how much a little life living and maturity can change things. I am thankful to have a big brother that I know will be there for me and loves me no matter what and I feel the same for him. We may never be best of friends, but we will always maintain a close relationship.
I have friends that have sisters so I had an idea of how special the sisterly bond can be, but I had never seen it firsthand. Now that I am a mom of all girls I am seeing it develop daily and look forward to watching their relationships grow and change over the years.
Over the years their bond has really developed as they have been each other’s number one playmate. From day one Ellasyn was smitten with her little sister, Edyn. She has always showered her with love and willingly shared everything with her. She takes care of her and watches over her constantly. That love is reciprocated from Edyn, but sometimes looks a little different. She has a hard time always wanting to share, but is very loving to her big sister. She looks up to Ellasyn so much. She generally wants to answer however Ellasyn answers and wants to do everything Ellasyn does. She has so much fun playing with her and learning from her. They also share a bedroom and can often be heard talking to each other long after bedtime each night. Their pillow talk is precious! Elllasyn starting school has been a huge transition for them both as they learn to be away from each other and have limited playtime together. I love seeing the close bond they share and pray daily that it will continue as they get older.
From the start Edyn fell head over heels for Ensley. She absolutely adores her! In fact, I often have to remind her that she does not need to be touching her all the time.
Their bond continues to grow now that Ellasyn is at school all day and as Ensley gets old enough to play more. Just as Ellasyn taught Edyn, now Edyn is teaching Ensley. I often hear Edyn talking to Ensley just the way Ellasyn used to talk to her. It is so fun to watch how they interact. There are times when Ensley is all about Edyn and then there are times when she has had enough of her always touching her. So far, they both seem to have more strong personalities so it will be interesting to see how they mesh as they get older. Edyn is great at taking good care of Ensley and always looking out for her. She can also always make Ensley laugh with her silliness. Their bond is very playful.
Ellasyn’s bond with Ensley is more of a motherly role than a playmate so far.
That may change as Ensley continues to be able to play more of the games the big girls play. Either way, they still have a special connection. Their relationship is very loving. Ensley lights up when she sees Ellasyn and loves to give her hugs and kisses. Just as Ellasyn has always watched out for Edyn, she does the same for Ensley. She is so responsible at making sure little things are picked up Ensley is only playing with things that are appropriate. The only thing tricky about their relationship so far is that there are a lot of things that Ellasyn wants to do that Ensley disrupts. She has had to learn to sit up at the bar int he kitchen or at the dining room table to color or play with things that she doesn’t want Ensley to get. She loves Ensley, but can sometimes get frustrated with her too.
I know this is just the beginning of the bonds between these three girls. I am excited to see what will come as they continue to grow. I also know that there will be times when they may not be such close friends. I think that is just part of the journey of growing up. I am okay with it as long as they come back together eventually and realize just how important sibling relationships are and how special it is to have a family full of sisters. I welcome any advice from mothers of girls and/or those who have sisters on how to foster these bonds and keep them strong.